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What would happen if I decided not to give Ashley any of her medications? Would she get sicker, would she stay the same?

What would happen if I threw caution to the wind and let Ashley do a round off back hand spring off the balance beam? If I let Ashley ride a horse, what would happen?

What would happen if we didn't take Ashley to the liver clinic four times a year? What would happen if just one time Ashley didn't see any doctors for an entire year?

What would happen if Ashley didn't have labs drawn "to many times to count" each year? Would Ashley forget what it's like to be a pin cushion?

What would happen if I believed what the doctors say about Ashley, about biliary atresia? Would Ashley be doing as well as she is if I fully believed in medicine?

What would happen if 11 years ago I did not want to know the sex of my baby? Would they have been able to save her? Would the choledochal cyst been found and would biliary atresia been diagnosed on time?

What would have happened if Ashley had been born in the 60's instead of the 1990's? Would there have been hope?

What would have happened if we did not have doctors familiar with biliary atresia treating Ashley?

What would have happened if we did not have the Internet to learn about biliary atresia, liver disease, liver transplant?

What would happen if I just said forget it, I want our life to be normal, I want Ashley to be normal?

What would happen if I felt alone?

What would happen if I didn't have faith? Faith in doctors, faith in God, faith in my responsibility as a mom, and faith in Ashley.

Last night as I was attempting to fall asleep this is what I was thinking. We aren't overwhelmed with Ashley's disease or having to take care of her but sometimes I just wonder what if. Ashley does ask me at least once a week why she can't be normal, do things that normal preteens do. She has begged me to stop being overprotective. So I went to bed thinking, "what would happen if."

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